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The Balancing Act of Time Management for Wedding Pros
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Episode 31 Podcast
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Lauren Dragon-Cook: How are we doing on this beautiful Tuesday? It is almost August… I cannot believe that. That’s a little crazy.
Today we are going to be chatting about a couple different things. We are also going to be making some announcements and all kinds of fun stuff. You are going to want to stick around until the end! This is going to be a relatively short episode.
I know we are in the middle of the summer. I know that obviously we are all busy. We all have so much shit happening. If you are a mom… if you are working part time on your passion and full time on a “real business”, then you know summertime is busy as hell! So I don’t want to take up too much of your time today. I just want to give you a couple of strategies that I use for myself to help balance out the chaos.
Funny story about that… I actually was using them yesterday and I didn’t even realize it. Yesterday (very quickly) I am working on SEO for a very good friend/client of mine and her website literally went down for half the day. Hen on top of that I was working with another client and getting their replay out for a video that they had purchased and that wasn’t working. My husband was being super needy and all the things! It was your stereotypical shit-show of a Monday. So I was like “oh my god I just want to start drinking right now, its like 9am in the morning”. And I didn’t for two reasons, 1) that would be a little irresponsible and 2) I was out of wine. It’s a little bit of both there.
I was using some of these five tips I will be sharing today. Hopefully you can apply them to your everyday and try to balance out your business with life in general.
Five Tips and Strategies
First things first… these are five strategies to help balance out your business life and your personal life, because even though they are very integrated and very much one in the same, you have to keep them at arms length at certain times, otherwise you will go bat-shit crazy. Your business will infiltrate your family time or you personal stuff that you have going on be inhibiting your business hours and what not. So I want to teach you five tips that hopefully will be super helpful for you.
1. You need to start being more consistent with your actions.
You hear consistency is key from leaders and podcasts and hear it everywhere! Great, but what the hell does that mean? What I like to think of when I think of consistency… try to set some sort of routine for yourself. Your routine can be different every single day, but try to at least have all Mondays you do this and on all Tuesdays you do this. That way you know what to expect and you know what it coming down the pipeline. That way you are able to kind of easily dodge bullets if they are coming your way. Just being consistent with your actions also goes for if you tell one client that your office hours are until 4pm on Wednesdays but then in the same breath you tell another client that your office hours are until 9pm on Wednesdays, that’s not consistent! And then you have no idea who you told what to! Its just about consistency. If you say one thing and set one boundary for yourself… stick to it!
Now here is the flip side to it. If you find it is not working, you do not have to hold onto that shit. This is not family member that we have to keep in our lives from day to day… no no no. You get rid of it. You throw it out. Try something new. You have to find what works for you and your schedule.
2. I guarantee you, if you are struggling with trying to balance this (all of it) and you’re a woman I promise you, you are not taking proper care of yourself.
So if you are not doing this, you cannot give to anybody else. Think of yourself as a bucket. There is a hole at the bottom of your bucket. It is always open. That means people are always taking from you. What happens if you have have a faucet up top, what is going to happen eventually? Your bucket will run dry. You won’t have anything else to give. Think of it as a cycle. You have to give to you in order for you to give to everybody else. We all can feel really guilty if we take time for us. If we go to get a massage or a mani pedi or just go for 10 minutes and take a walk. You have to take time for you. If you can feel yourself starting to burn out, take the time. Don’t feel guilty. I am giving you permission to not feel guilty about that.
3. I can almost without a shadow of a doubt say that if you are struggling with balancing it all, you yourself don’t know what balance truly means to you.
You have to figure out what that means. You have to figure out what your weekly schedule is going to look like regularly. How much will you allow on your plate /How may appointments will you allow? I will be the first to tell you, I’m guilty of this. If you feel like you are overwhelmed and there is too much on your plate, I am giving you permission to get rid of the crap you can. Reschedule them. If you have too many appointments or too many kids activities or too many baseball games you have to go to or whatever… reschedule it. You can’t give 100% of yourself if your wick or flame is about to burn out. You can’t do it. I don’t know what this is the way it is, but in our society especially as women we are supposed to be fucking superheroes! You can’t be super woman! You can only do so much and do not beat yourself up if you recognize that.
In all actuality if you can see that you maybe have overbooked yourself, that is a strength! That is not a weakness. You shouldn’t look at it as “I do too much”. No don’t beat yourself up about it. Don’t do that. Do the opposite. Recognize… “I really thought I could do more, I’m just not feeling it this week. I need to reschedule”. That is it! I’m giving you permission.
4. This is a big one! I think that as entrepreneurs we are always on.
We are always on. We are just like a train. Always chugging along. We are picking up other stuff as we go and we are trying to manage it all. But here is the thing… when you are spending time with your family… spend time with your family! If you are working, the you need to be working. You can’t try to multi-task like a mo-fo and expect to give it 100%. Yes we can do that, and we can do it well. Especially as female entrepreneurs. Am I right? We know how to do that. But it will burn you out without you recognizing it. If you say to yourself “okay my work hours are done at 5pm every day”, put that computer away. Put the phone away. You close it up and put it away for tomorrow. Nobody will die if you don’t het back to them with an email. No one will give you this terrible review if you don’t get back to them that same day. If yourself some grace. When you are present with your friends and family, be present. Don’t be checking emails. If you are working, give it your all! Don’t be answering the phone calls from your husband or wife. You are working. Just because you may not have an office in an office building doesn’t mean I’m not working.
5. How many of us tend to procrastinate?
How many of us tend to really… you know you have to get something super important done but at the same time you also know you can get X, Y, Z done… I’m guilty! You think if you are getting more done, then you are getting more accomplished. Right? Logic. Well I don’t know about you, but for me personally anytime I ever do that, I always notice that that one big project that I have going on, then gets pushed another day. I keep doing that. I can keep doing all the little things, but that big project just keeps getting pushed out further and further. So what I would recommend (and I have been trying to do this more lately) get that big project done first. Because then, I find that my brain is free. I’m not taking up space “ugh I still have to do this…”. There is space to get that done. Your brain isn’t occupied by clutter anymore. Try doing that one big project first.
If I were to go onto my Wunderlist, and look at all of my tasks. I have BIG stuff on there from back in February. But that’s what happens if I put those big projects aside. There is some saying “eating your frog first thing in the morning”. The idea behind that is you’re knowing out the biggest thing first, you are getting it out of the way so that for the rest of your day if you have anything left you are wide open and free so you can actually be creative.
There are five quick, but super beneficial tips. Nothing ground shaking monumental.
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Announcement number two… drum roll!
I am officially launching a membership! For all of my intuitive boss babes and boys I am launching a membership that will be one of a kind experience. This is not a sales pitch, I am just telling you about it because I am so excited. It is going to be a combination of woo-woo, intuition, the universe, and actually following your gut with business strategy with practical tips like this! Because, I don’t know about you guys, but has anyone found anything out there that is kind of like that? I made the logo last night and it is called “Intuitive Boss Life”. Original I know. I am going to be opening it probably later on this fall. My guess is November. But in the mean time if you want to get on the waitlist, I am going to need 20-25 beta-testers. VIPS. My go-tos. Then let me know and I will get you on the waitlist. I am pretty stoked about this. I really truly feel it is something that is missing from the creative industry in general.
What I will be offering the membership is I will be doing 2 hot seat calls a month. A group of three of you two times a month will be able to hop on with me and we will be able to do a deep dive into your business and I answer all of your questions and problems you have and that is included in your membership. Having a one on one with me starts at $375 so okay, just saying. I will also be doing two monthly forecasts a month. You can kind of know what is going on energy wise and what is coming down the pipeline. And a whole bunch of other goodies. Again this is not a sales pitch, I am just telling you kind of what is involved.
The last announcement…
this LIVE, this episode is going to be the last one of July, but I will be taking the next two weeks off in August for myself, to recharge, and to figure out where I am going to be going with things. I am in the process of chatting with a very good friend of mine and having her hop on here and possibly take over one LIVE a month, but in the mean time I will be taking the first two weeks off in August. So that means the third week in August I will be back in action. I want you guys to take a break for the next two weeks. Take a break from the clutter. Take a break from all the emails. Take time to be you. Before we know it the summer is going to be gone.
There are the major announcements. I want to answer any questions that anyone has! What is going on with your businesses? What are you encountering that you just can’t handle.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
I am so thankful for you all and this community. I thank my lucky stars for the path this community has taken me on. So again, the next two weeks in August there will be no LIVES. We will take a summer break and the third week we will regroup. We will get you going for the remainder of the season. I will put the waitlist link on this episode!
Love you guys, have a fabulous rest of the week. If you have any questions, as always I am here. Post the questions in the group. The group is huge and growing and we are at almost 1,000 members, but ask because it is a great group of people to offer advice and support.
We have a pretty kick ass community and I am so blessed and grateful and thankful!
So much love and light.
I’m Lauren, your wedding business visionary! I educate wedding pros on the behind the scenes of their businesses through practical knowledge and intuitive strategy. I incorporate my intuitive gifts with solid business strategy to maximize my clients' progress and success.