Are You Hiding Behind Your Business?
I wanted to switch things up a little bit and chat with you about something a little bit more personal that I think many of you need to hear, because I feel many of you are going through something similar. I am not ashamed to talk about this. I will be totally honest, I’m a little intimidated today to share this post, because it is my personal story and it is showing you a vulnerable side. I just ask that you sit back, relax, listen. I felt very strongly like some of you needed to hear this. That’s why I’m even sharing.
Time to Rewind
I really want to rewind a little bit. I want to share with you the moment I realized I was doing business, acting as a business owner, as a CEO and doing it all wrong. It was actually pretty recently. For anyone that is new to our community, you may not know I have worked with wedding professionals now for the past two years. But before doing that I ran a photography studio and I owned my own wedding planning business. It dawned on me the first of the year, that I was hiding behind my desk. I was hiding behind my work. I was staying busy just to avoid dealing with my own blocks and problems and dealing with things that one would think don’t affect your business, but they do and they do in a really big way.
When I had this realization and AH-HA moment… how many of us just say “I’m good, I’m just really busy”, or just work work work work work. You are always finding something else to work on in your business. But how often do we take a step back and see if that is really what needs to be worked on. I think that happens way fewer times than any of us would like to happen or think about.
Done Trying to Fit In
Also, I was done. Once I had that epiphany, I was so done with trying to fit in and fit the mold of what has been created before me. Or what has been made before me. What the path to being a wedding planner or being a photographer or being a mentor looks like. Screw all that! It is my turn to set the rules. I realized I had so much to offer the world and I realized I was in charge of my business in a whole new way. I felt I had been doing all of these things, I’ve been an entrepreneur since early 2010… I’ve been at this almost a decade and so I felt like all I was doing was finding something else that needed to be worked on.
I felt like I was doing everything in my business and all of the thing and yet I wasn’t seeing the results. It wasn’t matching. My effort, my contribution and energy wasn’t being matched by what I was receiving. And again, this was a part of the ah-ha moment. I was all done with shaming myself for the days I had super low energy and then the days I had super high energy. There was no in-between. I was done beating myself up about that too. When I kind of realize that, it took me up until this point… 6 months or so… to feel comfortable in talking about it. You can make major shifts and changes in your life, but it doesn’t mean it has all integrated.
This is also a major reason why you no longer see Wedding Boss Life on everything. IU realized what I was doing wasn’t my path. I took a step back and took stock of my life and I knew I needed to make changes in areas, but I wasn’t sure where or how. Everything, led up to that.
One thing I definitely want to mention is that if you are in the Facebook Community, if you are looking solely for business advice and strategy you are in the wrong place. This community is no longer that. It is evolving. It has changed and that is okay. It has taken me awhile to embrace that. Honestly, because I was so afraid of what other people would think of me and my business. At this point, screw it.
I am giving people an out who are just looking for straight up business advice, because this is no longer that space. There are plenty of other free groups and communities out there that you can join. But also, I am taking back my power and one thing I know I haven’t been doing a lot of lately is showing you how I can help you. Showing you how I can show up and support you, because I haven’t been able to show up myself.
With all of that being said, I’m pretty excited because there are going to be some major changes that are happening. One of those is not being afraid to talk about what I do best and that is helping to integrate your blocks, integrate what is going on within you into your business and vice versa. They are not separate entities. Have you ever noticed if you feel you are doing all of things and wearing all the hats and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong… the thing is… often times it has nothing to do with the business itself. How many people actually talk about that though? How many people bring that up to the surface. How many people will sit there and show you exactly how to do that and integrate the two.
That is where my gifts and what I do comes into play. I really truly feel like we are going to be changing the course, changing the direction of how business are run. They are no longer part of the dark ages where everything is systematic and analytics. No. We are humans your personality flows through your own business and your own brand.
Integrating Yourself into Your Business
I am going to begin shamelessly showing you how to integrate yourself more into your business. That is why I wanted to hop on today. This is what I wanted to talk to you about. Because to be totally honest, I had been floating for the last how ever many years. Yeah, I felt like I was successful. I was making money. I had clients. I was happy. But I wasn’t fulfilled. I knew something was missing.
Fast forward to today, I am showing people how to pinpoint that within themselves. I had a fantastic call with a client a couple days ago and one of the things that said to me that stuck out so much was that she had gone to guru #1 and #2 and #3 to help with her marketing efforts and getting found and having the right clients find her, but really within a matter of 25 minutes I was able to pinpoint exactly what the real problem was and it had nothing to do with her marketing efforts or her business ideas or techniques. It all boiled down to her self worth. And that is a reflection in your business because whether or not you want to believe it, energy is tied up in it. Everything is made of energy. We know this scientifically. Atoms are energy. To negate that you as a business owner are not a reflection of that in your business, is ridiculous.
I feel I am opening the door to something so much greater and bigger than the next course and the next webinar. If I get one more friggin’ email with someone trying to sell me something, I may kill them. They do leave addresses at the bottoms of their newsletters right? I mean I don’t have that much energy to go stalk them and whatever… but oh my god. I cannot do it anymore. It is too much.
With all of that being said, with the client I was working with a few days ago, when she had that epiphany that the problems in her business were a direct reflection of what was going on inside of her and her blocks… when I was able to pinpoint it, she had a major release. She was in tears. She was hysterical. Its not like I meant for that to happen, but then a couple days later I got a message from her telling me how there is already movement happening in her business. There are already changes happening just from those last couple days. What I am trying to say is I am taking off the mask. I am stepping off from the desk. It is time to get real.
If you joined this community under the impression of being a wedding professional, it is not longer just for wedding professionals. It is more of a holistic approach for business. I am going to show you and help you heal shit you have going on that has been going on for years and that is going to catapult the success of your business. If this is something you need, then get in touch with me! This is what I do. Whether it is just needing some clarity and you need a bit of advice, maybe you have a block that you don’t know what it is… I can help do that. I can help pinpoint that in one session, but if you are ready to make some changes and move stuff once and for all and heal stuff once and for all then one of my other packages is probably best for you.
I hope this was helpful and this message resonates with those of you that needed to hear it because so many of us hide in the shadows because we are hoping that nobody sees what we have been trying to deal with our whole lives.
If this resonated with you and a message you really needed to hear, please share it. This is how our community has been growing. This is how the people that needed to hear the messages we deliver, this is how they have been finding us. Many of the people that find our group, when I ask them how they found us they don’t even remember. That is how it happens.
I cannot thank you guys enough for being part of this incredible community. As always, if you have any questions you can always reach out. It is about to get lit and it is about to get real and I hope you stay along for the ride and if not, I wish you nothing but the best and nothing but the most success possible.
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