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Manifestation is a GIMMICK!

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In order to manifest what you WANT vs. what you DON'T want, you need to start doing this...

 
 

Within the online spiritual community, I have been seeing a topic be brought up more and more that I think it deserves to be talked about. And that topic, my friends is why manifestation itself is a gimmick.

The Buzz Word

I feel manifestation has turned into this buzz word and it is beginning to upset me that so many people and “coaches” out there are profiting from teaching you how to “manifest” things. The reason why I feel it is more of a gimmick than anything else is because whether you choose to believe this or not, manifestation is happening every second of everyday for everyone. It is not something you can just be taught. Why? Because it is happening no matter what. All of your reality is manifestation. It has been manifested. It is constantly happening. You are creating your own realities by your thoughts, your beliefs, your actions...

manifestation and the law of vibration

So where you are living… you manifested that. What car you drive… you manifested that. Now maybe its not your dream car or your dream house… and you’re sitting there saying to me “Lauren I did not manifest this **it”. Okay but you did. You did. The reason why it may not be your dream car or dream house is because you didn’t feel that you were worthy enough to have your dream house to have your dream car. You are in a state of mind that wasn’t the highest possible vibration that you could have.

The reality is, there are twelve universal laws out there. You probably have heard of the law of attraction. If you have heard of The Secret… maybe you’ve watched the book or rea the movie… let me know below in the comments. You heard during that book or movie all about the law of attraction. The law of attraction states that no matter what you are attracting what you want because as a attractive magnetic power within the universe that draws similar energies together. The law of attraction is the universe is always drawing similar energies together. It is manifesting through the power of creation and it is happening everywhere in all different kinds of ways. And whether or not you knew this, even the law of gravity is part of the law of attraction. This law attracts thoughts, ideas, people, situations and circumstances 24/7. There is never a minute this isn’t happening. 

The thing with manifestation coaches and why I titled this video “Manifestation is a Gimmick” is because it is not like you are manifesting some days and not others. Its not like you are really setting intentions for today and what you want to manifest but tomorrow you took a break from manifesting. That is not how it works.  

First Missed Piece: Law of Attraction

There are two key pieces missed while you start to dive into this whole world of manifestation… the first piece is pretty simple and easy. In order for you to receive money and receive that good good, that abundance you are looking for, you need those days where you rest and reset and purge. The day you don’t do shit. Because in order for you to maintain a higher vibration you need days like that too. You can’t be going full out like the energizer bunny 24/7 and expect to be able to manifest your dreams and desires. Why? Because you are burnt out. Because you are burnt out and in turn that brings down your energy and level of vibration. That is why having those days to rest, reset, recharge, purge… those are so important because what it is doing is helping to maintain that high vibration, that high frequency. If you feel what I am saying right now is a load of BS and you’re like, “No I don’t need those days to rest, I’m always in a good mood, I’m always running high”, the reality of that is no. You can’t. Its balance. The law of attraction similarities attract similar thoughts, beliefs, things… if you are going to be burnt out, guess what you are going to attract? Less than ideal shit. Right?

The whole premise of why I wanted to do this video is because I saw a couple of days ago in my social media, “I have this secret and I’m going to teach you how to manifest exactly what you want. Buy my program, buy my course, buy my workshop”. I can’t tell you how much that annoys the shit out of me and how much I want to send them a message and just be like “Listen, what you’re doing and monetizing is something that is already happening. And so what you are doing is you are leading people to believe that they are doing something wrong. You are leading people to believe that they are missing the key piece of how to manifest things.” The reality is, you are already doing it.

Positive thoughts are going to bring about positive experience. Negative thoughts will bring about negative experiences into a person’s life.

Second Missed Piece: Law of Vibration

The second missed piece that is very much missing is the fact that another law isn’t spoken about as much as it should be and that is the law of vibration. The law of vibration simply states that your personal vibration is going to attract similar experiences. So if you are feeling really down, depressed, negative… whatever. And trust me! We all have our days, this isn’t to say you have to be Positive Polly of every second of every day… that’s just not reality. That is not real life. In whatever bubble you are living where there are frolicking unicorns and rainbows, and leprechauns, let me know because I’d like to visit. But the reality is you are not always going to have good days and that is okay. You are not doing something wrong. The beautiful thing about universal laws is that they are forgiving. They are forgiving. If your intention to maintain a high vibration and intention is present, it is okay. That means that you are still going to have those off days and everything will still be fine.

What I am trying to say too is the reason you may not be manifesting all of your dreams, desires, hopes, and wishes is because your personal vibration is too low. There is truth in seeing those bumper stickers or sweatshirts where is says “Good Vibes Only”. There is truth to that. It’s a little ridiculous because lets me honest nothing is positive all the time. But that is part of the beauty because without feeling the lows you are not going to feel the highs. That is how the balance happens. But the lower vibration you are running at, the worse you are going to feel. Everything is energy. Your thoughts, your feelings, your beliefs. So if you are feeling depressed, sick or shameful and guilty… it is not just in your head. Because that is truly your vibration. That is your frequency.

All of the pieces that comprise manifesting exactly what you want, are what you have yet to learn. You are manifesting your reality every single second of every single day. What you are not manifesting is your dream life. Your dream whatever. Abundance. Your dream car. Your dream job. Your dream partner. The reason why those things are not coming into your reality, into your field, is because your vibration needs to raise up. You need to raise that vibration. And along with that you may need to become a little bit more clear on to how to set those intentions. You may need to understand and remember that not everything is about the law of attraction. You have to remember there are twelve universal laws out there. They all play a role in manifestation.

To Sum It Up!

This is why I am saying to you manifestation is a gimmick… once you understand the principles and universal laws, you are going to begin to manifest things that are in your highest good. If you continue to have crap days, you are going to have crap experiences.  It is never too late to begin manifesting that which you want. It is never too late to begin manifesting that which you want. Today is halfway through the day… I would start fresh tomorrow. Try to maintain and raise your vibration. There are plenty of ways you can do this and these are the types of things I am going to be talking more and more about within our community. Within the “Rooted Connection”.

manifestation and the law of vibration

If what I am saying to you is resonating and if you are like “okay, this makes manifestation so much more simple, what am I missing”… don’t forget the law of vibration is one law that isn’t really talked about that plays a major role in manifestation. AND maybe you need to become clearer on how you set those intentions.

If what I am saying is resonating with you, maybe it is really striking a chord and hitting home. Maybe you have also seen someone telling you out there “I am going to teach you how to manifest”… girls please! These people right here, right now, watching this video are already manifesting. You are manifesting your every waking moment, your existence. You just need to learn how to tweek it a bit to manifest that which you want.

If this is resonating with you, please share this message, share this video, tag a friend this needs to hear this. That is how we are going to be able to spread this message and really dispel those illusions and stories that are out there right now in the spiritual community especially, but if one top of that you are feeling stuck and feeling in a place of not knowing how to move forward, not knowing how to raise your vibration, not knowing how to really begin… you have two options. You can go about it yourself. You can go on Youtube and find those meditations and different things to raise your vibration or you can contact me and we can work one-on-one and I can give you tools, tricks, and information on how to go about that.

Or maybe you are more of a DIY person. Maybe you want to really put your pen to your paper and you want to go about it yourself… have at it! We have a space for that too. It is called the “Rooted Connection”. The doors are currently closed, but I would highly encourage you to get on the waitlist. That way you can go ahead and sign up to know when the doors will be re-opening but I will also give you information on how we can talk and go ahead to discuss how you can manifest what you truly do want, not what you don’t want. 

I hope this information was helpful. I hope you are having a beautiful Tuesday. I really feel we are going to be changing the game with what just kind of went down here. I am really excited for that.

Sending you so much love. Please share and tag this video. I have a feeling it will spread far and wide and I am setting that as an intention for manifesting in my reality. I hope you have a fantastic beautiful rest of the day and I will be seeing you later this week for our weekly card reveal.

I cannot thank you guys enough for being part of this incredible community. As always, if you have any questions you can always reach out. It is about to get lit and it is about to get real and I hope you stay along for the ride and if not, I wish you nothing but the best and nothing but the most success possible.

Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Want more results without another “Strategy” or Laundry List of Fluff? Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

The Beginner’s Guide to Crystals

Crystals 101

 
 

Whether you have jumped down the rabbit hole of the metaphysical world or maybe you have just always had a fascination with crystals and pretty rocks - this post is for you. Below I break down the basic stones every crystal collecting connessiuer should have in their collection, how to care for your crystals, and what they can actually do for you.

Crystals

All crystals have a unique vibration that they offer up. It has been scientifically proven that everything has energy: the phone or tablet or computer you are reading this article on, your desk, chair, car, tree outside your window… all of those things are comprised of energy. This is known as the Law of Vibration.

Anything that exists in our universe, whether seen or unseen, broken down into and analyzed in its purest and most basic form, consists of pure energy or light which resonates and exists as a vibratory frequency or pattern.
— Law of Vibration
crystals 101

Everything is running at a certain frequency. And so all of these crystals have that too.

Crystals possess earth energy, but they also have their own vibration because of how they're developed. And also when we set our intention into the stone or into the grid, that's what's really important as well because that's our energy. We're putting that energy into that stone and then the stone is setting that vibration outward.

Crystal Resource

My go-to reference has always been Judy Hall’s The Crystal Bible. She is an expert in all things crystals.

Crystal Grid Clothing

Have you heard of people putting crystals into their bras or pockets and carry them throughout the day? Ever wonder why someone hasn’t just made crystal grids that can be put into your clothing instead? Have no fear - Prism Wheel is here. Prism Wheel is a line of metaphysical products designed to help others feel empowered to take charge of their lives. Each product is designed with a snap system so that the wearer can keep their crystal wheel connected to their energy.


The 5 Must-Have Crystals

Selenite

Selenite

Selenite is what you should have right off the bat because it offers these deep cleansing properties to not only you but your ever growing collection of crystals. Selenite is one of the most powerful crystals for energy clearing, making it an essential tool for removing negative energy. As an entrepreneur, it’s easy to get into scarcity mode or start thinking small. Selenite is a crystal that is sure to expand your horizons of what you see beyond your momentary view. 

 
Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz is the stone of unconditional love and infinite peace. It purifies and opens the heart at all levels and in turn teaches the true essence of love. It is calming, reassuring, and excellent for use in trauma or healing work.

 
Amethyst Cluster

Amethyst

Amethyst is an extremely powerful and protective stone with a high spiritual vibration. It has strong healing powers and cleansing powers, and enhances spiritual awareness. The healing energy it offers allows you to not only open your intuition, but heal your intuitive abilities so you are able to connect more.

 
Real Citrine

Citrine

Citrine is a great crystal used for developing confidence, self worth, and creativity. It is a powerful cleanser and regenerator. Like Selenite, this crystal never needs cleansing. It absorbs, transmutes, dissipates, and grounds negative energy. It is one of the most common stones used when attracting abundance.

Amethyst Piece that has been Kilned

Side note:

Until just recently, I always believed Citrine looked like the image to the right. In reality though, pieces like this more often than not are actually pieces of amethyst that have been kilned. 

 
Clear Quartz Points

Clear Quartz

Clear Quartz is known as the most powerful healing and energy amplifier on the planet. It absorbs, stores, releases and regulates energy and is excellent for unblocking it. Not only does it help transmute and magnify energy, it is often used in crystal grids to amplify the intentions that are set. Once you set that intention into the crystal and you use it with another crystal - BAM - it becomes this powerhouse of energy.


the beginners guide to crystals

Crystal Grids

A grid is a series of crystals placed in either a circle or some other kind of formation that then all work together to bring about a set intention.

Caring for Your Crystals

You may have seen Pinterest images that show you how to care for crystals by putting them underneath the full moon or other ways of cleansing and caring for them. Here are some of my favorite ways to care for my stones.

Selenite

My go-to is always Selenite. I will put a crystal on top of a piece of Selenite and leave it there for for at least 10 to 15 minutes.

Palo Santo and Sage Bundles

Another common way to clear your crystals is by burning either a piece of Palo Santo or a bundle of Sage and blow the smoke onto the crystals.

Smudge Spray

You can also use a smudge spray to spritz on top of your stones. Just be careful as some crystals should not get wet.

Charging vs. Cleansing

What is the difference between charging and cleansing (or clearing) your crystals?

Cleansing

Cleansing is more of like clearing out and removing any energy that the stone has picked up. This could be from your daily activities or from an intention you set with the stone. You want your crystal to be vibrant and light and provide you with the best vibration. The way I think of it is giving my stones a proverbial bath.

Charging

Charging is more about raising the natural vibration of the stone to the highest level it can be. Charging is really about raising the frequency or vibration of the stone so that you can feel the true essence of that stone. This is why you may have heard people talk about placing stones underneath the full moon - to charge them.


Q: How Do I Know Which Crystals To Get?

You never need to question or worry what stones you may need because crystals choose you. Really, you may walk into a store and then think,”Ohhhhh, that one is calling my name.” You might not even know the meaning and you're just really attracted to it. And then you look at the actual meaning of the stone and you're like, “Yes, this makes total sense.”

Q: I love crystals because they are beautiful, but they don’t do anything for me or I don’t feel any different with them.

I totally get that! But what you need to understand is that the vibration is always there. Even though you may not be able to feel that vibration, it's still doing its job and is still offering you that energy.

Q: What if I forget to set an intention with my crystal?

When I first started buying crystals, I was attracted to them and I thought they were pretty and would make for a great Instagram photo. It's okay if you don't set intention. But I do have to say when you do set an intention, your crystals will work more efficiently. 

Q: What do I DO with my crystals?

You can meditate with them.

You can bathe with some of them, but there's certain crystals that you don't want to put in water. (Selenite and Himalayan Salt are definitely two that should never be exposed to water unless you want to dissolve your stones). 

You can sit with them and be intuitively guided on where to place them on your body.

They can be used in Reiki healing.

You can use them to decorate your home, altar space, office, bedroom.

If I get the urge to do some real healing work on myself or while I’m working with a client, I will reach for the crystal that is calling me.

Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Want more results without another “Strategy” or Laundry List of Fluff? Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

 
When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

The Moment I Realized I Was Going About My Business All Wrong

Are You Hiding Behind Your Business?

 
 

I wanted to switch things up a little bit and chat with you about something a little bit more personal that I think many of you need to hear, because I feel many of you are going through something similar. I am not ashamed to talk about this. I will be totally honest, I’m a little intimidated today to share this post, because it is my personal story and it is showing you a vulnerable side. I just ask that you sit back, relax, listen. I felt very strongly like some of you needed to hear this. That’s why I’m even sharing.

Time to Rewind

I really want to rewind a little bit. I want to share with you the moment I realized I was doing business, acting as a business owner, as a CEO and doing it all wrong. It was actually pretty recently. For anyone that is new to our community, you may not know I have worked with wedding professionals now for the past two years. But before doing that I ran a photography studio and I owned my own wedding planning business. It dawned on me the first of the year, that I was hiding behind my desk. I was hiding behind my work. I was staying busy just to avoid dealing with my own blocks and problems and dealing with things that one would think don’t affect your business, but they do and they do in a really big way.

When I had this realization and AH-HA moment… how many of us just say “I’m good, I’m just really busy”, or just work work work work work. You are always finding something else to work on in your business. But how often do we take a step back and see if that is really what needs to be worked on. I think that happens way fewer times than any of us would like to happen or think about.

Done Trying to Fit In

Also, I was done. Once I had that epiphany, I was so done with trying to fit in and fit the mold of what has been created before me. Or what has been made before me. What the path to being a wedding planner or being a photographer or being a mentor looks like. Screw all that! It is my turn to set the rules. I realized I had so much to offer the world and I realized I was in charge of my business in a whole new way. I felt I had been doing all of these things, I’ve been an entrepreneur since early 2010… I’ve been at this almost a decade and so I felt like all I was doing was finding something else that needed to be worked on.

I felt like I was doing everything in my business and all of the thing and yet I wasn’t seeing the results. It wasn’t matching. My effort, my contribution and energy wasn’t being matched by what I was receiving. And again, this was a part of the ah-ha moment. I was all done with shaming myself for the days I had super low energy and then the days I had super high energy. There was no in-between. I was done beating myself up about that too. When I kind of realize that, it took me up until this point… 6 months or so… to feel comfortable in talking about it. You can make major shifts and changes in your life, but it doesn’t mean it has all integrated.

This is also a major reason why you no longer see Wedding Boss Life on everything. IU realized what I was doing wasn’t my path. I took a step back and took stock of my life and I knew I needed to make changes in areas, but I wasn’t sure where or how. Everything, led up to that.

One thing I definitely want to mention is that if you are in the Facebook Community, if you are looking solely for business advice and strategy you are in the wrong place. This community is no longer that. It is evolving. It has changed and that is okay. It has taken me awhile to embrace that. Honestly, because I was so afraid of what other people would think of me and my business. At this point, screw it.

Are you just really busy in business?

I am giving people an out who are just looking for straight up business advice, because this is no longer that space. There are plenty of other free groups and communities out there that you can join. But also, I am taking back my power and one thing I know I haven’t been doing a lot of lately is showing you how I can help you. Showing you how I can show up and support you, because I haven’t been able to show up myself.

With all of that being said, I’m pretty excited because there are going to be some major changes that are happening. One of those is not being afraid to talk about what I do best and that is helping to integrate your blocks, integrate what is going on within you into your business and vice versa. They are not separate entities. Have you ever noticed if you feel you are doing all of things and wearing all the hats and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong… the thing is… often times it has nothing to do with the business itself. How many people actually talk about that though? How many people bring that up to the surface. How many people will sit there and show you exactly how to do that and integrate the two.

That is where my gifts and what I do comes into play. I really truly feel like we are going to be changing the course, changing the direction of how business are run. They are no longer part of the dark ages where everything is systematic and analytics. No. We are humans your personality flows through your own business and your own brand.

Integrating Yourself into Your Business

I am going to begin shamelessly showing you how to integrate yourself more into your business. That is why I wanted to hop on today. This is what I wanted to talk to you about. Because to be totally honest, I had been floating for the last how ever many years. Yeah, I felt like I was successful. I was making money. I had clients. I was happy. But I wasn’t fulfilled. I knew something was missing.

Fast forward to today, I am showing people how to pinpoint that within themselves. I had a fantastic call with a client a couple days ago and one of the things that said to me that stuck out so much was that she had gone to guru #1 and #2 and #3 to help with her marketing efforts and getting found and having the right clients find her, but really within a matter of 25 minutes I was able to pinpoint exactly what the real problem was and it had nothing to do with her marketing efforts or her business ideas or techniques. It all boiled down to her self worth. And that is a reflection in your business because whether or not you want to believe it, energy is tied up in it. Everything is made of energy. We know this scientifically. Atoms are energy. To negate that you as a business owner are not a reflection of that in your business, is ridiculous.

Stop hiding behind your business

I feel I am opening the door to something so much greater and bigger than the next course and the next webinar. If I get one more friggin’ email with someone trying to sell me something, I may kill them. They do leave addresses at the bottoms of their newsletters right? I mean I don’t have that much energy to go stalk them and whatever… but oh my god. I cannot do it anymore. It is too much.

With all of that being said, with the client I was working with a few days ago, when she had that epiphany that the problems in her business were a direct reflection of what was going on inside of her and her blocks… when I was able to pinpoint it, she had a major release. She was in tears. She was hysterical. Its not like I meant for that to happen, but then a couple days later I got a message from her telling me how there is already movement happening in her business. There are already changes happening just from those last couple days. What I am trying to say is I am taking off the mask. I am stepping off from the desk. It is time to get real.

If you joined this community under the impression of being a wedding professional, it is not longer just for wedding professionals. It is more of a holistic approach for business. I am going to show you and help you heal shit you have going on that has been going on for years and that is going to catapult the success of your business. If this is something you need, then get in touch with me! This is what I do. Whether it is just needing some clarity and you need a bit of advice, maybe you have a block that you don’t know what it is… I can help do that. I can help pinpoint that in one session, but if you are ready to make some changes and move stuff once and for all and heal stuff once and for all then one of my other packages is probably best for you.

I hope this was helpful and this message resonates with those of you that needed to hear it because so many of us hide in the shadows because we are hoping that nobody sees what we have been trying to deal with our whole lives.

If this resonated with you and a message you really needed to hear, please share it. This is how our community has been growing. This is how the people that needed to hear the messages we deliver, this is how they have been finding us. Many of the people that find our group, when I ask them how they found us they don’t even remember. That is how it happens.

I cannot thank you guys enough for being part of this incredible community. As always, if you have any questions you can always reach out. It is about to get lit and it is about to get real and I hope you stay along for the ride and if not, I wish you nothing but the best and nothing but the most success possible.

Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Want more results without another “Strategy” or Laundry List of Fluff? Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

 
 
When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

The Biggest Business Mistake I See Creatives Making Every Day

Are you making this mistake in your business?

 
 

It has been a hot minute since I have hopped on with a new blog post, but I wanted to bring attention to something that I am seeing more and more regularly. It is this mistake (I don’t really believe in mistakes but this comes pretty close to one) that creative business owners are making regularly.

It starts with this belief that in order for you to be growing and to be successful in your business, there is this whole idea that you have to be productive or active in order to make that happen. That cannot be further from the truth. I’ll tell you why…

Business is a Reflection of the Seasons

Some of you may have heard me talk about this in the past, and that’s okay because I am going to bring more awareness around it. You are not the energizer bunny. Your business is no the energizer bunny. Your business reflects seasons. Your business goes through cycles, whether it is reflecting of the seasons or moon phases… it is ironic how not only do the seasons give you those same periods of rest and actions, as the moon phases do… it is supposed to be that way in business too guys.

We are in the Winter season right now, unless you are living in the Bahamas or Miami, you are probably experiencing the doldrums of the winter blues. But the Winter serves a purpose. It is a period for you to rest to make plans and winter coincides with the new moon. This phase that we are currently in is the perfect time to set intentions, to really begin to look at new beginnings, to plan what actions you are going to take. It is not necessarily this period where you need to be go go go.

Then there comes Spring. Spring is the season of taking leaps, or inspired action, of sowing those seeds you planned out back in January when you were chilling on your couch and binging on Netflix. The Spring is when you go full force. The spring can be relatable to the phase of the moon known as the waxing moon.

So not only are we in winter right now, but the Spring time is when you are supposed to get up and go. This is something that so many entrepreneurs either bat themselves up about or they think they are not doing enough or they think they aren’t doing the right things, if they feel the need to take a break, to push pause, to come back at things again in 24 hours. This whole idea of masculine energy… it is very go go go, its get shit down. Doesn’t matter how its going to happen but you’re going to bulldoze through it and you’re going to make it happen. That is masculine energy. What happens when we have too much of that in our business is there is this entire imbalance that begins to happen. And what does that actually look like for you in your business?

What Does Imbalance in Business Look Like?

It starts to resemble not having enough clients to worrying about where your next client is going to come from. To not being paid what you truly are worth. To not even having your ideal clients. That is how an imbalance in energy in your business begins to manifest. There is this problem that has permeated our creative industry where everyone thinks they are supposed to just go go go and get it done. But the reality is, they are not addressing the real root of the problem.

I am telling you, because how many times have you tried something else in order to fix the need to have more clients or tried something else to figure out who your ideal client is. Or tried something else to nail down your pricing. How many of you can resonate with that?

As a society of creative entrepreneurs we have come to believe that we need to find an outer solution to our problems. Again, that cannot be further form the truth because an imbalance from energy means you have too much of one thing happening, so you have to bring in more of the other thing to make it balanced. What is the opposite? Feminine energy. What does this look like?

It looks like this nurturing, loving, compassionate, listening, comforting energy. Not the go go go get it done. It’s the sit back, take a breath, it’s alright. When there is this imbalance that affects so many entrepreneurs, they think that a webinar or a course or a master class or a coach will be the solution. It is the end all. But what they are not addressing is the real root of the problem and that is the imbalance of energy within your business.

With all of that being said, I have created a cycles in business roadmap for you. You can use this from now on so whenever you feel you aren’t doing enough or you shouldn’t take a break today… whatever feelings arise for you… whip this sheet out and take a look at it. It will show you exactly where you are supposed to be in your business as far as it relates to energy and whatever cycle you are currently in.

How many of us beat ourselves up if we feel we cannot stop? How many times have you said that to yourself (myself included)… what ends up happening? You end up doing the same task over and over and over again. It doesn’t ever feel right. It doesn’t ever feel like I’ve completed it. I’m doing more work in the long run than I even should be to begin with because I didn’t listen to my body. I didn’t listen to what I was being told. You fight it, because again you feel you are an energizer bunny. You feel like you are supposed to just plow through and get it done.

That is that masculine energy again. That is okay, we need that masculine energy. But as business owners we have too much of it. We have way too much of it. That is probably why you are an entrepreneur to begin with.

I wanted to just leave this with you and share the fact that it is okay to take that break. It is okay to be in a place of rest and not feeling guilty about it. You are a business owner, you bust your butt. You think about your business 24/7, before you go to sleep. How can you make it better? How can you get more clients?

You deserve a day, once in a while without beating yourself up, to do the inner work on yourself. If there is no you, then there is no business.

Some people have a longer winter or spring or summer than others. It doesn’t matter. It can be different for everyone. But that is why it pisses me off to no end when you hear these gurus and leaders out there and they’re like “take my course, do this one more thing…”. Holy shit! If I hear the word hustle one more time, I’m gonna shank a bitch. Haha I’m sorry! But really though, the idea of hustle is so stupid. It should be so much more of a flow. It should be so much more ease. It should come easier. We make it so much harder.

It is exhausting and it leads to burnout. It leads to all of the things we fear as creatives. But if we just listen to our intuition when it tells us to put the laptop down, put the phone down. If we actually listen to that… we wouldn’t have half the friggin’ problems we do as business owners. 

The people we see online as successful entrepreneurs and creatives, they are able to take those breaks that they need. They are able to take the time to breathe., but they just don’t share that because it is frowned upon. Which is so silly to me. They think it will show weakness, but in reality it shows they are a well rounded machine, a well rounded business.

Balance the Masculine Energy as an Entrepreneur

How many of us beat ourselves up if we feel we cannot stop? How many times have you said that to yourself (myself included)… what ends up happening? You end up doing the same task over and over and over again. It doesn’t ever feel right. It doesn’t ever feel like I’ve completed it. I’m doing more work in the long run than I even should be to begin with because I didn’t listen to my body. I didn’t listen to what I was being told. You fight it, because again you feel you are an energizer bunny. You feel like you are supposed to just plow through and get it done.

There is that masculine energy again. That is okay, we need that masculine energy. But as business owners we have too much of it. We have way too much of it. That is probably why you are an entrepreneur to begin with.

I wanted to just leave this with you and share the fact that it is okay to take that break. It is okay to be in a place of rest and not feeling guilty about it. You are a business owner, you bust your butt. You think about your business 24/7, before you go to sleep. How can you make it better? How can you get more clients?

You deserve a day, once in a while without beating yourself up, to do the inner work on yourself.

Some people have a longer winter or spring or summer than others. It doesn’t matter. It can be different for everyone. But that is why it pisses me off to no end when you hear these gurus and leaders out there and they’re like “take my course, do this one more thing…”. Holy shit! If I hear the word hustle one more time, I’m gonna shank a bitch. Haha I’m sorry! But really though, the idea of hustle is so stupid. It should be so much more of a flow. It should be so much more ease. It should come easier. We make it so much harder.

It is exhausting and it leads to burnout. It leads to all of the things we fear as creatives. But if we just listen to our intuition when it tells us to put the laptop down, put the phone down. If we actually listen to that… we wouldn’t have half the friggin’ problems we do as business owners. 

The people we see online as successful entrepreneurs and creatives, they are able to take those breaks that they need. They are able to take the time to breathe., but they just don’t share that because it is frowned upon. Which is so silly to me. They think it will show weakness, but in reality it shows they are a well rounded machine, a well rounded business.


Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Want more results without another “Strategy” or Laundry List of Fluff? Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

My Awakening

The Story of My Awakening

 
 

Things might get a little vulnerable because I am going to share my story with you all.

Let’s Start at the Beginning

Today is about me and my story. It is an interesting one, for sure. I am telling you guys this because I have seen a lot of people saying that intuition you have to be either a mythical unicorn to tap into it or you have to be born psychic and that is not true. I am living proof of that.

My story is going to be similar to a lot of yours and that is why I really wanted to share this with you today. Having “the gift” isn’t something we are all born with. I was of this mentality too. I always used to think you were born psychic or born with all of these crazy things… you could see dead people straight out of the womb. How scary would that be? Could you imagine?

I am 31 years old. I have been “awake” since 2013. It hasn’t been that long in the grand scheme of things. Its been 6 years. I went to college for Psychology. I got my degree and a minor in Holocaust and Genocide Studies. Oddly enough, the majority of empaths or psychics that come into their gifts later on in life aren’t really sure what they want to major in, so the majority of them major in psychology because something just resonates with them… human behavior. I find that interesting… that is so true! I had no idea why I wanted to learn about psychology and all of the things.

I thought I was going to become a guidance counselor or I thought I was going to be a professor of Holocaust and Genocide Studies. That was where my heart was. At the time, upon my senior year I was actually married. I had a practice marriage. Yes, praise to the practice marriages! Right around the end of my fall semester senior year, my partner at the time said “mmm I don’t love you anymore”. Yeah… so as you can imagine my entire world got flipped upside down. I was supposed to go and visit Clark University a week after he told me that and I remember having to write the professor of the program and say “I’m so sorry my life has drastically changed”. I thought my world was over. Looking back now, it was the universe intervening. 

Straight Outta College

I graduate from college, I get a divorce, I am all the things. I start working at a bank because straight out of college, how many of us got a job? If you did I want to know because you are a freakin’ unicorn. I started working at a bank and then very shortly there after I went into direct sales. I wasn’t very happy, let’s just say. That is putting it very lightly…

2012 rolls around and I begin working for a Boston wedding photographer who also happened to become my very best friend very quickly. For those Grey’s Anatomy fans out there she was the Christina to my Meredith. She was my person. It is very interesting to me because I had never had this strong of a connection with anyone ever. I had had really good friend sin high school and college but never had that type of soulmate best friend level connection. I start working 2012 with her. February 2013 this is where it gets good.

The Night It All Changed

I accompany the wedding photographer and the second shooter to a wedding. We were the three best friends. I go to this wedding and the mother of the bride, we knew going into this, was psychic. She was a world renowned psychic. She did readings for celebrities. The wedding happens and nothing “odd” happens. It was relatively a normal wedding day. At the end of the night we are packing up our stuff and she happens to come back into the room. Picture a two level wedding venue. A beautiful old rustic finished barn. She comes back to her table which is on the first level and grabs her purse. In order for her to come upstairs to us she had to make a point to go up these stairs. She says, after coming up to see us, we are the only ones left… she says “Who here knows Flo? Who here knows Florence?” I immediately burst into tears. MY grandmother who pretty much raised me, she was my maternal figure, had just passed. Just shy of a month prior. As you can imagine, for those of you who have lost your mom… I apologize. I personally haven’t lost my mom but I have lost my maternal figure and that is the worst. The worst.

So as you can imagine, I’m doing what I’m doing right now… and here we are 6 years later. Just imagine that fresh. She says “She is here with you. And she wants you to know she is okay. She didn’t suffer. She is at peace.” Now quick backstory, my grandmother has polio. She actually wore a brace her entire life. One leg was so significantly shorter than the other that she couldn’t walk without this brace. At the end of her life, she had very severe dementia and Alzheimer’s. She wasn’t really there. So I always wondered if she was present. As you guys know, it wrecks havoc on your entire family. She was able to come to my second wedding, my real wedding. She was able to meet Liam, my oldest son. SO that I am grateful for. And that is something the mother of the bride said to me. She answered that question because it was something I had always wondered. She knew who Liam was. The mother of the bride said to me, “you are doing a wonderful job raising Liam and she sees that. She is so proud of you.” If someone at that moment could have given me a million dollars or the confirmation that my grandmother was able to meet Liam… I would’ve said fuck the million dollars. I don’t want it. That’s how important it was to me.

The moment my soul woke up

You Have the Gift

So anyway… obviously she had my attention at this point. Obviously I am listening to everything this woman is saying to me. She goes on to talk about some things that I would’ve only known about with my grandmother. Like the secret stash of Werther’s. Just little things. She goes on to tell my friends Jess and Erin about them. She actually predicted that my friend Erin was going to have twins, blonde haired twins a boy and a girl. And if you knew Erin at that time she had a daughter, she was older, she was good! She was good with that child train. Babies were not in the forecast. So she laughed it off. It came true. All of that happens and then towards the end of the conversation that has completely blown me away. She just looks at me and kind of stares at me. She just looks at me and says to me, “You know you have the gift, right?”. And I just look at her like what the hell are you talking about. Christmas is over, its February… my Ian is buying me a Valentines day gift? You have to give me some context here. She looked at me and said, “I want you to do a quick exercise with me. I’m thinking of my very best friend, her name is Pam. I’m picturing her in my mind. I want you without thinking about this, I want you to explain to me what she looks like... go”. Without any hesitation I said, “well she is about my height. She is a little bit heavier set. She has brown hair and gorgeous blue eyes”. And so this woman, just looks at me and smiles. And she said “That’s Pam”. I honestly at that moment didn’t really know what had just happened. Was I on a game show? Like what is even happening right now? She said, “You have the gift you just need to cultivate it and learn it”. And I of course didn’t know how to do that. And she didn’t know that I’m a wicked nerd and I love learning. So she opened Pandora’s box on this one.

Change of Trajectory

I just want to thank her. I know this isn’t directly towards her, but I hope to someday just be able to give her the biggest hug. Embrace her, and just say thank you. Thank you for changing the trajectory of my life. At that time I had very bad postpartum. I was kicking myself thinking I was this terrible person because here I am taking anti-depressants. I will never forget her saying to me, “I work with a lot of clients and I am able to help a lot of them get off medications. You are one of a handful of people that I want to say to you… you need your medication. You are not you without your medication”. I didn’t say anything to her! I didn’t prompt her. She knew nothing! She knew nothing about me guys! How is that even possible?

That is 2013. I continue working for the Boston wedding photographer. I continue working with my best friends. And then towards the end of 2015 my intuition really starts to get strong. Now mind you I’ve been reading the books, I’ve been pulling cards, I’ve been getting crystals here and there. Doing all the things kind of secretly, under the radar. People don’t know publicly. Only those closest to me… my husband and my two best friends. 2015 I get this intuitive nudge if you will. It is hands down the hardest reality check I have ever received in my life. If you had said to me, back in 2015, you are never going to talk to your two best friends ever again. You are no longer going to work with them. Your life is about to change… I would have said you are full of shit and you need to get yourself checked.

That is exactly what happened. I had been getting these nudges that I needed to leave. I needed to quit. I needed to go out on my own. I didn’t want to acknowledged it. Reality is, would you want to say goodbye to your best friends for the rest of your life? No! I kept getting these promptings and they kept getting stronger and then finally the universe… the divine intervened and made it happen. So I went from having a get a job, two best friends that I couldn’t have given my left leg to have better ones… all of these things… and then it happened. I felt like my world had been flipped upside down. But I can tell you what… if I didn’t have those intuitive nudges telling me this is about to happen… I don’t know what that whole situation would’ve looked like for me. I’m sure I would’ve picked up the pieces, but how would that have looked? It was hard enough as it was.

That was the beginning of 2016. Then I immediately transition to becoming a wedding planner. It was what I was already doing essentially. It just made the most logical sense. A year in, I have all of these clients come out of nowhere. Its not like I had money to be marketing myself. I finished my very first year with 8 clients. Who does that? I went into the following year almost completely booked. That doesn’t happen. I have many friends that have been in the industry for years and they are like… it took me a year and a half to actually get a client or whatever! But I realize within that first year I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t happy and I didn’t know why.

My Soul's Awakening

I do some digging and soul searching. I realize what was lacking was my ability to really help and serve people at the level I wanted to serve. For me that meant helping business owners with behind the scenes of their businesses. Helping them figure out how to set it all up and make it all work. I use this analogy all the time… just because you are a world renown photographer, doesn’t mean you know how to be the CEO of a company and vice versa. If you are the CEO of a fortune 500 company, that doesn’t necessarily mean you know how to take an award winning photograph. Right? That is what I felt I had come to do. So Wedding Boss Life is born. Here I am helping all of these amazing wedding professionals, teaching them about marketing and systems and SEO. Something is still missing. Now mind you, I could have quite honestly just been like “no its find, I’m loving what I’m doing”. But I didn’t, because I knew the reality of when you get those subtle nudges is coming for a reason. I knew there was a reason. I started to lean into it more, instead of being scared of it. What that ended up doing was one full year after me launching Wedding Boss Life, on a LIVE… I feel this push. That is the only real way I can describe it. I feel this push to tell the world that I am intuitive. Now this is something I have kept hidden to myself for the last 5 years. This is only something I know about. For those of you who have ever had to step outside of your comfort zone, who have ever had to come out of the closet (per say) in whatever way, shape, or form that looks like for you… whether that is coming to terms and reality with what your passions truly are, what you really want to do for business, the truth surrounding your sexual orientation… it doesn’t matter. You guys know that feeling of fear and worry of judgement and utter “Oh my god I am never going to be able to put this coat back on me”. Once I step out that door gets locked. I can’t play it safe anymore. 

So thank you universe for allowing me to embrace that change because I was able to go LIVE and I did an energy forecast for the week. The response to that was something I will never ever forget. It was me coming out of the closet and I had so many people that either had an inkling or loved every facet of who I was and embrace me and they were so supportive and that is when I truly felt like my life has just changed completely and there is no going back. 

The Transformation

So that is how this has kind of come about. I went from being a business coach, if you will, but before that was a wedding planner, before that I was a studio manager, and before that I had owned my own business. I went from being all of the logical, all of the systemic, all of the rational… and quite honestly being viewed as the smart girl. I graduated 10th in my class. I graduated suma cum. I’m not telling you this to brag, I’m telling you this because I value intelligence and I value education and I value learning. But now I just flipped the friggin’ script and I just came out March 2018 and I say to the world “by the way I am an intuitive” and that was it. I began to incorporate it more publicly into my work. Before if you worked one-on-one with me, it kind of slid under the door. I still was very scared and afraid. The reason why I really want to drive that home, is because that feeling of the unknown, not knowing what is to come, is life. Its business. Its relationships. Its everywhere. When we play it safe, because if we can’t control certain elements of a situation we look for the safety factor. That is what we do as humans. That is what we do as entrepreneurs. Even though being an entrepreneur there is no telling what is going to happen form day to day, we play it safe. That limits us and our growth. It limits the possibilities for the universe to show up and deliver. 

So people will come to me and say things like, “oh I don’t know where I’m going to get my next clients. I don’t know how to price my services. I don’t know how to market”. But the reality of it is they are shutting themselves off from possibility.

Any time someone, a business coach lets say in the online world, proclaims to have the answers to solve all of your business woes. Just want to let you know, what they are providing you is essentially a bandaid to a broken knee. It is essentially receiving a cast over a wound that goes form your shoulder to your arm. It is not what we always need because we are not always getting to the root of the problem. I want you to understand that my story is no different than yours. It is no different. It is just a matter of listening and acting upon that.

That brings us to today. That brings us to here and the now. Now I am an intuitive business coach. I incorporate all of my gifts and all the things. That way you are getting the most well rounded perspective on your life and your business. 

It took me awhile to get to this place. I wouldn’t have been able to tell it so publicly if you had asked me to do it even a few months ago. It is exposing part of yourself that is who you truly are, but you are exposing it to the world and saying “I don’t give a **** if you judge me or not”. 

 
 

Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Want more results without another “Strategy” or Laundry List of Fluff? Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

How Intuition Can Make Business Less Overwhelming

Using Intuition to Grow Your Business

 
 

I see you.

I used to have this really bad habit of doing all things… except for the things that actually mattered. 

You ever have those days where you’re list is never ending, and so instead of actually making headway on your giant list you kinda just netflix and chill, and eat, and social media scroll, and find the time to talk to your neighbor for 45 minutes?

And then it’s 3 o’clock and you got to pick up the babes… and you have just a minor freak out because you literally did but 1 thing on your giant list?

No? Just me?

Liar

Why I’m Sharing

I share this because I don’t actually think anyone is immune to the overwhelm that can often times accompany Entrepreneur Life. Sometimes the list is HUGE, and netflix soothes that. 

But want to know what I’ve recently come to realize? 

Half the time my list was so long because it was CHALKED FULL of things that I didn’t actually need to do. The amount of fluff I added on my list because it was part of some strategy or some belief of what I thought I should be doing was pretty ridiculous. 

This was before I realized that there was an easier way of doing things.

A way that didn’t include adding on ten billion things onto my already heavy load of #allthethings

What’s This Easier Way You Speak Of?

I am passionate about teaching Intuition to business owners because this is the tool that will literally support you in fine tuning your business To-Do’s. It’s literally List Fluff’s Kryptonite. 

In this day in age we often glamorize the Hustle… no wonder we are all so burnt out and exhausted at the end of our days. 

And the longer our list gets… The more discouraged we often get.. And the more we see it fit to spend another couple hours chatting with the neighbor about that damn yappy dog across the way. (AKA, your list is building.) 

So, you may be like some of my students who say, "I'd love to be using my Intuition in my business more… but seriously, I don’t have room on my list for literally anything else.

or... 

"I’ve tried to tap into that inner voice… but I get crickets. It must not be for me" 

or worse... 

"I’d rather just buy another done for you strategy and have a never ending list of Fluff and Doom!" 

(Don't even get me started on THAT one! Another strategy isn't only the hard way, it’s the route that takes you furthest away from your own innate wisdom!) 

So, it usually comes down to not having room for one more thing on your plate. I get it. You’re in overwhelm city, one more thing is bound to be the straw that breaks the camel’s back. 

How much time will this mythical thing you call Intuition add onto my never ending to do list?! 

Ok, let's really address this question... 

...by first saying: this is the WRONG question to be asking! 

It's totally backwards! 

Instead of asking how much time using your Intuition in your business will take, tell me how willing you are to stop using these done for you strategies, courses, and holy grails from the Guru’s that aren’t working… so that you can drop them and spend your time using your intuition to create the strategy fine tuned and custom TO YOU.

There are simple changes you can make to your approach in your Business that will create massive changes in not only your connection to your Vision and Why, but the way you operate wholeheartedly. 

Instead of wasting time implementing someone else’s strategy that is likely to fall flat… you can tap into your own wisdom and create a Soul Driven Strategy that actually is aligned to your vision and what you’re creating.

Instead of piling your list high with all these “should” to-do items - you can learn how to check in with yourself and do the thing that feels most nourishing and aligned in the moment.

Instead of guessing what your ideal clients are wanting from you - you can tap into your own innate GPS system which literally holds the road map to what the people who love you are craving from you.

Instead of following all the Guru’s and spending hours consuming their content, you can spend a few moments every day getting into your body, and tapping into what your Soul is nudging you to create.

 
 

Now, I can't make any promise or guarantee that you'll have the same experience or results as me. 

BUT…what I can promise is this: when you learn HOW to master tapping into your own Intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you'll confidently navigate your business in a whole new Soul Centered kind of way. 

I mean, you don't really think I would ditch all the Guru’s, systems, and courses if it wasn’t actually benefiting me in a massive way - right?

Imagine being able to confidently approach your business from a place of power and certainty. 

Imagine having absolute confidence in what you’re creating and how it’s going to benefit your tribe. 

Intuition! THAT’s the missing link!

So if you want to MASTER this so you can actually navigate your life and business with ease, certainty, and confidence… 

Let me take my 6+ years mastering tapping into this Inner Road Map we call intuition, and just give you the EXACT steps you need to get started NOW! 

No more guessing.

No more trial-and-erroring a million different new strategies and systems.

You ready?

When you learn HOW to master tapping into your own intuition and the innate wisdom that lives within you, you’ll confidently navigate your business in a whole new soul-centered kind of way. 
— Lauren Dragon-Cook

Your Clients Won’t Show Up Unless You Do

Creative Boss Life Podcast: Episode 36

Do you live in a perpetual state of worry or trust?

 
Clients won't show up unless you do
 

Grab your dark roast + join as you learn what is holding you back from a life of abundance and being a #bossbabe to a booming business!


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Episode 36 Podcast

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Transcript

Lauren Dragon-Cook: Welcome back everyone! We’ve got some people in Canada, in the Carolinas, in Connecticut, in New Hampshire… all over the place.

I think you are all in for a teat today. I am pretty stoked about this talk. For the month of October the theme is in preparation for engagement and holiday season. But today I really felt like I needed to talk a little bit more on a deeper level. I felt like you all needed to hear some hard truths and some tough love. So that is kind of why I decided to throw this curveball in there today.

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Today we are going to be talking about why clients aren’t banging down your door, why they are not showing up for you in the way you feel they should be. Maybe you feel you are doing everything right, maybe you feel you are pumping out content or showing up on social media… you feel you are checking off all those boxes but for some reason the clients aren’t showing up the way that you’d like them too. Does this resonate?

We are going to be talking about why those clients probably aren’t showing up for you. It has more to do with the way you are kind of living your life. To be honest. If you are living more in a state of worry and wondering where the next thing will happen, wondering where you will be able to connect the dots down the road, if you are living for the future, or if you are living in more of a state of trust in the present. Maybe you’re really focusing on gratitude. This may be something you have heard about on a TED talk, it could be something you’ve heard about anywhere… but I keep getting these kits lately. These downloads and pings from my guides saying to me “your people, your community don’t need another strategy, they don’t need to know another technique, they need to actually step back and we need to take a look at some of their stuff.”

I can almost guarantee you almost everyone on here has in some way shape or form has repelled a customer from them simply because of your own beliefs and how you saw yourself.

How Many Of You…

First things first, if this is you… if what I am about to say resonates with you… I want you to tell me! Number 1: How many of you feel your clients emotions on a really strong level? It is almost like you are experiencing exactly what they are. You are feeling the emotion behind what they are saying or what they are concerned or worried about?

Number 2: If this is you… also tell me! How many of you often worry too much? You worry about things that are maybe out of your control. Or maybe you worry about the littlest of things.

Number 3: How many of you tend to not see the true value of your work to see the true worth of your work, because it just comes naturally to you? Because it is something you do day in and day out. It is something you think “oh wait you don’t know how to do this?”. And then you get confused because they don’t.

Ladies and gentlemen, the reason why we are talking about this again is because I felt really strongly last night… I hadn’t come up with a topic for todays conversation, there was a reason for that. I didn’t start to really dig deep until last night because I felt I needed to put it on pause and look at it when we got closer. So much shit is changing, guys. Whether or not you are new to energy and the universe and universal laws, it doesn’t matter. If you are listening or watching this right now, you are living on this planet. With that comes certain rules and laws that we just kind of either don’t acknowledge or recognize or we don’t care. The people that actually take the time to start to learn about these different things and apply them to their life and business, are the ones that start to see significant growth.

Trust vs. Worry

Let me ask you some real questions… I want you to be honest with yourself.

In life, in general, do you feel like you are living in a perpetual state of worry? You don’t know where your next client will come from. You don’t know what the future holds for you. You aren’t clear on what your goals are. You are just riding the wave. Maybe you don’t feel like you don’t know what your purpose is, genuinely. Maybe you feel lost and lacking legit clarity. You don’t know where you should be really going. That keeps you up at night!

Or maybe… you are living more often than not in a state of trust. You know without a shadow of a doubt you are taken care of. You are going to be okay. The clients are going to come. You know you are going to get clarity soon on whatever direction you are going to be taking in your business.  You know what areas personally you should be working on.

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Do you trust more than you worry? Or do you worry more than you trust? I want to know. You are not alone. There is a reason why I am talking about this. There is a reason why this is todays episode and talk. So often so many of my clients will come to me and say “I already have my systems set up and I’m doing well marketing and my SEO is on point… why am I not getting the clients?”

Let me be 100% honest guys… that has nothing to do with business. It doesn’t. The law of attraction means that whatever you put out there you are going to get more of. If you are living in a constant state of worry, then the universe will show up and give you more scarcity. It will give you more things to help you worry more.

If though, you are just going to leave it to chance, you are going to trust that everything will work out exactly the way it is supposed to. If you are living in that mindset, the universe will show up for you. It will give you the answers and the end result you have been wanting. But when you start to really worry, it stops that from happening. It stops that tidal wave, that surge of energy from happening.

I want to ask you guys, I posted this on my Instagram last night and it speaks to today. Have any of you ever worried yourself into a blessing or worried yourself into a solution? Me neither.

You have to take a step back and really think about what are you giving gratitude towards. Even if you are living right now and it is hard for you to get out of bed. Maybe some days are more difficult than others, maybe some days you just feel defeated and walk away from it all. I get that. I get there too sometimes. But even on those days, what are you grateful for? What are you giving thanks for?

In your business, maybe you aren’t exactly where you want to be… but right now you are growing. Especially if you are here. But even on the days when it is hard to find the good in things… you have a bed to sleep in. You have electricity. You have a phone. You have internet. You have hot water. You have air in your lungs. You have tiny things to be grateful for. When you start to call out those tiny things and write them down… you start to find the good outwardly. You start to see it on a much larger scale. You are then able to find the silver lining in any situation.

What ends up happening in the long run is the universe shows the fuck up for you. You are living in a state of gratitude. You are thankful for the things that you have and the universe wants to give more of that. It wants you to feel that way always.

Is this making sense? I want to make sure because I feel I am only literally scratching the bare bones surface of this. This is the foundation. What I am talking about sets the foundation and tone for manifesting. I have had many of you guys reach out to me asking how you manifest. How do I get started? If you aren’t here in this place I am talking about and living in a state of trust, it won’t happen for you.

Story Time - Manifestation is Real

I want to paint a picture for you of what it is like to live in a state of trust instead of worry. Last winter my laptop literally was about to self combust. It was overheating and it was only 7 years old. I knew I needed to replace it. Did I have the money at the time? No I didn’t. It was slow season for me and slow season for my husband. So obviously we are not going to worry about buying a computer at that moment. But after months of saving a little but I was only about $400 or $500 short. I started to worry… “where am I gonna get it from…” I started to do what we all do and I started to get up in my head. I started to worry.

Then I took a step back and reminded myself that it was stupid! I don’t need to worry about this, it will work out the way it is supposed to work out. I flipped the script and I said to myself… I am going to get this computer by the end of the week. It was clear! I am getting it by the end of the week. I don’t know how it is going to happen and I don’t need to know how. But it is going to happen.

A day or two goes by, no changes. Another day… no major changes. And then on the third day I go out to my mailbox and inside there is a check from State Farm Insurance from 2011. Because we overpaid by $287 back in 2011. Now… mic drop that one. A couple of things I want to point out though.

  1. We no longer have State Farm. We switched.

  2. We moved.

State of Trust in Business

How it got to me, beyond me! Do I need to know? No. There was that piece. Then later that night all of the sudden I felt called to check Dubsado and see if anyone has signed up under me. I love Dubsado, but I don’t talk about it to make money. I talk about it because I feel it is a solution for so many people who run creative businesses. I have had Dubsado at this point for a year and a half. I had never checked. So I checked. $410 was just sitting waiting for me in my affiliate account. Had it been there all along? Yeah, but had I stopped to think about it when I was in my cloud of worry? No.

So what happened? I was able to get quiet with myself and say “You know, whatever is going to happen is going to happen”. There was all the money I needed plus enough to get me a pair of earbuds. That is me painting the picture of trust versus worry.

Worry took me months and months and months of planning or stashing away or feeling like a chipmunk putting the nuts in my tree. And then when I realized it was dumb… I decided to trust. It happened guys, I can’t make this stuff up.

Again, these are the types of things business owners don’t pause to think about. When was the last time you took stock and inventory of what was going on inside?

I had someone comment on my Instagram and it was in regards to collecting feedback from you all. I asked when the last time was that you served your audience instead of thinking you know what they want and what they are experiencing? For so many people it was such a good reminder. I had someone in the comments say to me “I’ve asked but I’ve never gotten an answer. I’ve offered incentives and I’ve never gotten an answer. I don’t know why.”

So really quickly, I tapped in to see what was going on and it took me all of 3 seconds to see she is in a constant state of worry. Living in that state of worry is repelling people from her. What I’m saying goes much deeper than just how to run a successful business. What I am saying can help you in life.

If you are looking to dive deeper in this area or just in general, then send me an email or message me. Lets discuss it. I really am getting this feeling that many of you are really resonating with what I’m saying. You will be identifying with the little pings I am saying. You are feeling tired. If you are ready to take things to the next level, let me know.

In Closing…

With all of that being said… I would love to hear from you. I would love to hear if todays’ episode was helpful. Did this bring you a bit of clarity? There is a lot that goes into business. I don’t care who you are! I don’t care if you are an authority figure rocking your niche in the industry. There is so much more to business than strategy. When you show up, your business shows up. But if you aren’t right, you aren’t where you are supposed to be… neither is your business. 

To recap… your clients aren’t going to start showing up to if unless you do! Unless you are showing up and living more in a state of trust versus worry and constant “what is next!?”. If you can trust that the universe has got you, then you are going to be okay. To take that one step further… you have to make that conscious decision. You have to say what it is you want. You have to say or write it down or making that decision or setting that goal… you have to say “I want this. I am worthy of this”. You don’t have to worry about how its going to happen, that is the universe. If you just set the intention I guarantee you the universe will show up if you are living in a state of trust.

I hope this was helpful! This is what I am passionate about. This is what serves me. This is what my purpose is. To dig deep and uncover the shit that nobody else talks about to help you grow your business quickly and efficiently. You already have the answers inside of you of what you are supposed to be doing. But have you taken action? Or are you living in a constant state of fear or worry?

Without further ado, I am going to hope off and let you go. If you are feeling anything I said to you resonated… lets talk! Its not like I am going to sell you anything. Seriously. Lets see where you are at.

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LDC of WBL

Hi! I’m Lauren, your intuitive business coach. I show creative entrepreneurs how to access the inner wisdom available to them through the gift of intuition so they can run aligned businesses and enjoy purposeful lives filled with clarity in an era of overwhelm, self-doubt, and uncertainty. 

We always hear how important it is to “trust your gut,” but we don’t know how to listen and act on it to make practical everyday decisions. My life purpose is to assist others in uncovering their own answers; to help them to awaken their intuition so that they can live out their purposeful paths.